How unique are you?

The fact is we live remarkably similar lives but it’s fair to say that we would all like to live life on our own terms. Do our own thing - create our own future...


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You are biologically unique, but are you REALLY that different from the next person? I'm referring here to your thoughts, feelings, emotions and actions.

The fact is we all live remarkably similar lives in respect to what we want to be true in our lives. Most every human seeks comfort, security, happiness and the need to be loved. We are not that unique when it comes down to what we want in life.

An underlying desire in all of us is the desire for freedom, although freedom might mean different things for different people. 

It's probably fair to say that we would all like the freedom to choose what we do when we do it and how we do it. We would all like to live life on our terms.

In the back of your mind somewhere, you might have a hazy picture of what this life might look like but more than likely you're wrong about that.

This wrongness is because much of what we imagine is fanciful dreaming. 

Dreams need structure and purpose to bring them to fruition. Everything you want in life becomes a lot easier to achieve when you have a sense of purpose about what you want to achieve and why.

With all financial issues removed, and you have purchased all the toys to the point of boredom, what then? 

A balanced life?

Now, of course, I cannot tell you what your life would be like, but I think we can agree it would be a life well-balanced in all the things that go into making you human. 

A large part of being human is, of course, our interaction with others. From the need to touch another's skin, to look in another's eyes, we are not so very different. 

Whilst we might be biologically unique, it turns out we are very similar to what we want from life.

The similarity is probably to be able to understand ourselves better and at the same time, do more of what gives us the greatest pleasure.

Of course, this requires flexibility in thought and action.

We often fail to obtain what we want in life because we are not flexible in terms of a path we might follow to get it. 

Flexibility is essential if we are to follow an unknown path that might be given to us via intuition, for example.

Could intuition lead you to a desert island paradise? 

With a heart yearning for the idea of freedom, with the sun on his back and surf gently lapping golden sands. Ben is on yet another desert island holiday.

This island is remote; it has taken a long flight and boat trip to get here.

Every year Ben locates another island to visit, every year his dream is reinforced as a just a dream. The reality of the return trip back home, always returning as the end of the holiday draws closer.

This particular island has little infrastructure with only one small village.

Two days before Ben is due to go home, he decides to visit the other side of the island. 

After a steep hike, he is rewarded with the sight of the opposite coastline. In the distance, he sees the roofline of a small shack that he estimates is very close to the beach. He heads down from the ridge in that direction.

Sometime later he emerges onto the beach.

From standing, he falls back to a sitting position in the soft sand and stares blankly along miles of rubbish washed up on the shore. 

A man in his eighties appears from the shack and greets Ben in broken English. 

Over the next hour, Ben learns that every day the rubbish is washed up, and every day the old man does what he can to collect some of it.

Once a month a government ship arrives and takes away what he has collected. For this, he gets a small amount of money that he lives on.

The old man never puts a dent in the amount washed up, and when a storm comes, tons more plastic soon follows.

Now you might be thinking what has this story go to do with you creating the life you want to live. But stick with me because how this story turns reveals a lot about you following your intuition.

Ben returned the next day and worked with the old man picking up rubbish. That night he slept under the porch of the shack and fell asleep thinking about his return trip home and back to city life.

The next morning the two of them ate breakfast and then started another round of rubbish collection. Ten minutes in Ben stopped and looked up the beach as a spark of a crazy idea fired.

He would live on the island and help clean the beach. 

Immediately following that thought, he said his mind flooded with what seemed like a million thoughts as to the stupidity of the idea.

  • How would he live?

  • He would need some money, at least?

  • He had obligations at home?

He said the list of negative thoughts just kept coming.

Five minutes later he had crazy idea number two. This idea was about how he might finally get to live on a desert island.

The next day back on the other side of the island, he emailed some friends with his idea. Each of them in the kindest way shot the idea down in flames and told him to get back to reality.

He said the comments from friends took the wind out his sails. But he decided to try anyway.

He joined a service where people could donate money for a cause they deemed worthwhile. He published his story about the beach with photographs of the mounting rubbish.

Ben laid out his plan, saying that if he could raise enough money to stay on the island, he would work a minimum of 30 hours a week cleaning the beach. He would post images each week of progress made.

He posted the link to his close friends for feedback. Some friends came back still calling him crazy, but now they liked his idea.

The upshot of this story is that Ben got to stay on the island. He got more money than he needed. With the extra money, he has children from the village to come and help pick up the rubbish.

He said the following month when the ship came to take the plastic away the crew had to work like hell for hours to load up before the tide turned.

There is a lot more to this story but let's look at why this worked.

Later on, Ben struck up conversations with some of his patrons and discovered they fell into two camps. Some donators were paying a few dollars a month to virtually spend some time imagining they were living on the island.

Others were people with the desire to clean up the oceans but who would never leave the city. This latter group were from the comfort of their city homes, actually making a real difference to cleaning up the ocean.

Their dollars were powering hands that wanted to do the work.

That eco-warrior sitting on their couch in the city gets to live out their battle in real-time, they get to do something other than march in the street with a sign. 

They get to tell their friends that they are cleaning up the ocean and back it up with commitment.

They get a cause fulfilled that they are passionate about, and Ben gets to live the life he wants to live.

Remember, in the last post we asked what is USE VALUE and How do you turn it into money?

Let this story sink in. Imagine how it could have failed. Think about why it succeeded.

Your ideas if you share them will likely cause people to believe you to be lacking in common sense. But, believe me.. 'Common sense' is not that desirable and often based on common thinking.

Common thinking is what you see all around you. From what I see, much of this common thinking is not too smart. 

What would you have said to someone who said…

"I am going to live on a desert island in paradise and people back in the city will send me money to live out my dream?"

The biggest takeaway from this?

The HOW of what you want to achieve is not that important. How will find a way that you can implement. More often than not, our most significant obstacle in life is ourselves.

This obstacle often operates from irrational fears and society driven beliefs that are entirely lacking in substance.

The reality is our desert island is more often than not locked away inside us. We just need to find the key.

You could say that this publication is in some way, my desert island. My desire to make a difference in as many lives as possible before I die.

The idea of your subscription is my way of getting you to drive a stake in the ground and state. 

"Ok from here on I am going to do this. From here on in, I am going to create the life I want to live."

Through your subscription, you're making a commitment to yourself. You are driving that stake in the ground and committing to taking action. 

Of course, there is the still small voice of reason, the fear of the unknown that goes hand in hand with moving out of your comfort zone.

Come on; it's a crazy idea. I mean, how could it possibly work? Why would anyone believe it wise to sail to a foreign shore, burn their ships and face the possibility of failure?

I believe it, and that’s good enough for me. 

How about you?


All the very best from my family to yours